June 13, 2021


1. Respectfully communicate with him. Don’t talk to him harshly, rudely or as a nobody.

2. Let him know he’s important to you. Always say it and show it.

3. Purposefully try to understand his feelings—even when you disagree with him. Minimize the frequency of your disagreement.

4. Show interest in his friends by giving him some time to be with them if they’re trustworthy.

5. Let go of the small stuff. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouse’s. Don’t impose what you love on him.

6. Tell him you both love him AND like him.

7. Either show interest in his hobbies or allow him space to participate freely. Allow him to enjoy and relax.

8. Protect his dignity on a daily basis. Don’t talk bad of him and don’t allow your friends to do the same.

9. When confronting him, realize he has feelings also and not a saint.

10. Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your relationship. Look for ways to laugh together.

11. Try not to make sudden major changes without discussion, giving him time to know and adjust.

12. When you go out on a date together don’t bring up problems you left at home. Rather have fun instead and not quarry.

13. Focus on what he’s doing right, instead of focusing so often on the negatives. Celebrate his positives, PRAY about his negatives.

14. Show interest in what he feels is important in life.

15. Give him a special time with you without you playing with your phone.

16. The first minutes after a spouse comes to visit you often sets the stage for how the rest of the evening will go. Try to make that time a positive experience.

17. Give him time to be alone.

18. Don’t allow family members to treat him disrespectfully. Defend him to anyone that dishonors his place as your husband to be.

19. Compliment him often.

20. Be creative when you express your love, both in words and inactions. SIN NOT!

21. Talk with him about having specific courtship/family goals for each year to achieve together to feel closer as a potential marital team.

22. Don’t over-commit yourself and monitor him as if he is a criminal who must not run away. Leave time for him.

23. Extend God’s grace to him and be forgiving when he offends you.

24. Find ways to show him you need him.

25. Give him time to be alone. (This energizes him to reconnect at other times.)

26. Admit your mistakes; don’t be afraid to be humble. Peel away your pride.

27. Defend him to those who disrespectfully talk about him. Love protects.

28. Respect his desire to do well—not his performance.

29. Love talking with him.

30. Take time for the two of you to sit and talk calmly (schedule it when necessary).

31. Initiate going out on outings, seminars, prayer retreat, etc.

32. Text him when he’s at work, telling him how much you love him.

33. Surprise him with a fun gift of some kind that he’d really enjoy.

34. Express how much you appreciate him for working so hard in preparing for you proposed home.

35. Tell him how proud you are of him for who he is (giving him specific reasons).

36. Give advice in a loving way — not in a nagging or belittling way.

37. Help your Man to be the Spiritual head of your relationship (without “lording” it over him).

38. Pray for him to enjoy God’s best in life.

39. Take special notice for what he has done for you.

40. Brag about him to other people both in front of him and even when he’s not there.

41. Keep conversations brief when he’s tired—so he isn’t “flooded” by too many words. Learn not to talk too much. When he is tired or hungry, it is not the right time to give him SUPER STORY.

42. Tell him 3 things you specifically appreciate about him.
I hope you will make use of this. Just try it and see the wonder. You will surely gist me about the positive result. 

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